So, today I wanted to write about how ridiculously rude people can be, how hurtful they are, and why we should all cut those people off in 2012… then I sat there… looking at old photos… crying like an idiot.
Saying things like that would be the epitome of the cliche “easier said than done”. The truth is, people are going to hurt me, people are going to hurt you, and people are just going to suck at life in general.
The difference is… finding out who matters enough in your life, my life, or life in general enough that no matter what kind of crap they dish out, we move on, forgive and forget, and still love them.
It may sound masochistic, but I believe all of this. Or, at least I’m starting to. Frankly, at 28 I’ve come to find out that friend, foe, and family don’t always perform the way they are defined. Sometimes “enemies” can be oddly kind, friends can be downright jackasses, and family can be more distant than the east is to the west. But… they still have a role.
We can’t just toss our hands up in the air and get a new set of family, friends, or foes (lol who wants more “enemies” anyway right? lol) We have to take the good with the bad, the right with the wrong, and learn from all of it.
I’m not sure if this is wise yet, or if it’s just that sticking to “what’s familiar” is somehow calming even in the midst of turbulence, but I’m willing to try anything once… or… I guess at this point for the 1000th time.
Certainly… I am no saint. I’d never even joke that I am. In fact, I’m sure the exact same things I feel right now towards a choice few could be easily hoisted right onto my shoulders… even 100 times more so…
Maybe this is just me trying to say “do unto to others…”
OH Girl! I know just what you mean. And this time of year makes things either more clearly defined (who is the enemy) or completely throws everything out of whack all together. So I’ve resigned to do what is best for me. If being around someone (family, friend or enemy) doesn’t make my life better, then I won’t put myself in that position. It doesn’t mean that I don’t miss who they once were or long for the days that were better. But knowing it will keep things more simple for me, helps me through it. I cannot change others but I can work on me – and following the Golden Rule does just that. But it doesn’t say we need to put ourselves in harms way either. So I’m going to do good to others who do good to me, or who don’t even know me, and for those who have hurt me and there’s no easy repair to the problem in the relationship, then I’ll step back and let time take its course.