We all play roles. We’re the hero, or the villain. And sometimes we’re a wolf in sheep’s clothing.
Sometimes I’m accused of not listening (several people have told me this over time), but the truth is, I do… I just cycle things differently. It’s weird… sometimes it’s like I hear Charlie Brown’s teacher in my head initially, then it replays a couple times and it’s clear. (That doesn’t mean I still don’t ask things to clarify though lol…)
All that to say, I pay attention much more than those people think and although I don’t have the memory I wish I did (too many childhood/teenage accidents me thinks), I do have weird laser point memory on many things.
So, today, I was taking care of my grandfather and had some time to just think about a lot of things… then I saw tweets, facebook msgs, and even recalled some conversations here and there that led me to an interesting thought that, I’m sure I’ve been guilty of myself.
That thought is that we judge people, relationships, things, etc then we reflect those judgements onto others. What I mean is we decide something about a person, then because of our pre-judging everything from then on out is tainted with that “thing” and we then taint other’s views of said person, relationship, thing, etc. (Sorta like we don’t allow other’s to make up their own minds about a certain thing, even though it’s partially their responsibility too.) I’m sure there is an actual psychology term or what have you for this, but today I had the realization of it.
It’s sad, it’s flawed human nature, but it’s true. So there, we are, judge, jury, and executioner.
In 2012 I’m working on not always saying the negative things I think about someone, thing, etc even if they are justified.
